It can be difficult to accept when things don’t turn out the way we planned. The fact that your child is transgender does not necessarily mean you won’t still be a grandparent…anymore than the fact that a cisgender child may choose that they don’t want to have children, or may not be able to have children.
Trans parenting options
Trans women (people with a female gender identity who were assigned male at birth), may choose to have sperm frozen prior to any hormone and / or surgery treatment, to give them parenting options in the future.
Likewise, trans men (people with a male gender identity who were assigned female at birth), may choose to have their eggs frozen prior to any hormone and / or surgery treatment, to give them parenting options in the future.
Trans men may also choose to put their hormone treatment on hold to allow their body’s female hormones to start functioning again in order to become pregnant. Assuming the individual still has their female reproductive organs (i.e. they have not undergone a hysterectomy) this is viable. There are emotional factors to consider in that a trans man would be dealing with the psychological impact of carrying a child, which is widely recognised as a ‘female’ role.
There are also the same options available as would be offered to any individual with fertility issues. Trans individuals may choose to foster or adopt, or consider surrogacy options.
Please be assured, whatever you are feeling right now is ok and there is plenty of support available to help you through this journey.
Please do get in touch if you’d like to speak to our qualified parent worker for information, advice and guidance: Nicki Ryan 07884 425408 | Nicki@free2b-alliance.org.uk
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